To hold a Two-Spirit family and all the heartache that each of us brings requires patience, compassion, and empathy. Almost like a blood relation family but more because we are dedicated to each other’s recovery by choice. We choose to love each other stronger, to hug tighter, to sit longer with each other’s feelings because no one else will.
My journey would took me to the west coast of Turtle Island, across Europe, India, Nepal, Dubai, New Zealand, and Costa Rica. These lands were beautiful with so many moments that left me speechless. It was an honour to share sacred space with these folx. I listened to the many stories about the impacts of colonialism on their lands and their strength in resilience. These stories sounded all too familiar.
Few people I talked to cared about the blood quantum of potential partners until college. Suddenly, I was surrounded by Indigenous students. Native girls spend their lunches adding up blood quantum fractions, trying to figure out whether any babies will make the requirements for their tribe or their new boyfriend’s tribe. I nickname them the BQMs (Blood Quantum Mechanics).